The Sex Chats, Brighton.

The Sex Chats, Brighton.

Hosted by  Jem Ayres & Bear Philips.

Thursday 24th October

A night of ideas that may shock, surprise & excite you - challenging what you thought you knew about s*x - with trail blazers and leading conscious s*xperts sharing their metaphorical pearls on desire, intimacy, and the art of making whoopee.

Our intentions for Sex Chats, Brighton:

• To create a night of sex positive speakers to explore subjects that may be new, edgy and/or exciting in a held space.

• To share information, education and ideas from professionals and creatives in the sex positive field.

• To normalise the discussion of intimacy, bodies, sex and pleasure

• To give us a language to use around sex, intimacy and pleasure.

• To release any shame around talking about sex, intimacy, and pleasure.

• To learn from each other and have a place to ask questions you wouldn’t discuss at the dinner table.

Nightingale Room, Grand Central (upstairs)

7.30pm Doors

7.45pm prompt start

10.30pm end

Prices:

£15 earlybird (limited)

£18 in advance.  

Donations:

Any donations you make via DandelionEarth on top of your ticket purchase will go towards accessibility ticketing, meaning we can offer lower-priced tickets to those who would benefit from attending but cannot otherwise afford to do so.

Accesibility:

We wish for our events to be as accesible as possible however we have not been able to find  a barrier-free venue so unfortunately the venue has stairs to our room on the first floor.

If you wish to attend but finances are abarrier, please get in touch:  hello@jemayres.co.uk

Speakers for Oct 2024:

Sensual Responsive Live Cello

Bela Emerson

 Bela and her cello will welcome you into the room with style, playfulness, and deep vibrations

Three’s Company: planning a threesome

Ali Hendry

Your handy guide to creating inclusive, ethical threesomes.

Ali Hendry (she/her) is a Certified Holistic Life and Relationship Coach (PCC, Level 2). She works with individuals, duos, and groups. She runs an ICF Relationship Specialty Certificate and teaches coaching skills at an ICF Level 3 international coaching academy.  She is the Relationship Columnist for DIVA Magazine, the largest global publication for LGBT+ women and non-binary folk, and runs the Relationship Room on IG LIVE and podDIVA. 

Beyond the Norm: Accepting Ourselves Through Kink & BDSM
Deb The Kink Shrink

What is normal anyway & can BDSM help us embrace our 'self'

Deb is a Psychotherapist who talks round the world about BDSM with over 90k hours in practice & 20 yrs of training (how much is enough?) as a Supervisor & Therapist.

She writes on all things Psychology, Neuroscience, Relationships (CNM & Monogamous) & Communication on FetLife & runs workshops as TheKinkShrink.

The Secret to the Best Sex You Will Ever Have

Bear Phillips

The secret is based on years of personal and professional experience (and rooted in the latest scientific research). I could give you the answer here, in one word, but where’s the fun in that?”

Bear Phillips (he/ him) is a trauma-informed bodyworker and a sex & relationship coach. From his own journey, he believes pleasure to be a portal to healing. In this talk, he’ll explain why.

A Manifesto for Healthy Relating

Andrew Bellenie
Somatic relating coach Andrew Bellenie (he/him) introduces a radical new framework for evaluating new and existing relationships - join the healthy relating revolution!

Becoming: Neurodivergence and the perimenopause journey 

Kirstine Weaver

Kirstine (they/them) is a storyteller, sexological bodyworker and somatic coach who works with people of all genders at the less sexual end of the sexuality spectrum. As a neurodivergent person who has worked though much of their own societal conditioning, Kirstine hold space for their clients to do the same.

In this talk Kirstine discusses how perimenopause impacts neurodivergence, shining a light on late diagnoses in people born with wombs.

Building heart centred communities

Beth Hardwick

 Beth ( she/her) will speak on building connection, trust & intimacy within intentional community.

A life-long community participant who cherishes her one precious life within the community setting.

Beth is the Director and host for Sensitivita, mum of 4 and lover of clear, kind and generous communication!

Speakers may change last minute.

About your hosts:

(Professional S*x Coaches & Trauma-informed bodyworkers)

Jem Ayres

Jem (she/her) is a certified Sex Geek -  A trauma-informed, Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Sex Coach, Tantra practitioner and teacher. She is the Founder of Orgasmic Embodiment, and  leads workshops, retreats and hosts talks on conscious sexuality.

Co-Founder of Brighton Talks Sex, and co-host of Desire & Intimacy Conscious Sexuality Gathering for people under 40.

Jem has over 10 years’ experience in the field of self-development through the body and teaches what she calls ‘Sexual Self-Development’.

Overcoming stage 4 cancer became her focus for a while, and through this process she embraced and worked with the healing power of orgasm, both teaching and speaking regularly on Full Body Orgasm, using life force for healing.

Jem’s teaching on Full Body Orgasm, featured on Channel 4s ‘Sex Actually With Alice Levine’ Episode 3; Sexual Healing 2021, and Channel 5 documentary  ‘Adults Only: I Need Sexual Healing’ Series 3, Episode 8.

Multi-talented and creative she is passionate about helping people to connect with themselves through the body, fine-tuning into the subtleties of our life force, using sexual energy to fuel all areas of life. 

www.jemayres.co.uk

Bear Phillips

Bear Phillips (he/ him) was a designer for 30 years before giving it up, at the height of his career, to become a s*x-worker. He is a trauma-informed bodyworker, and an intimacy, dating & relationship coach. 

As a coach he works primarily with men around questions of masculinity, misogyny and patriarchy, and how these impact our most intimate relationships. 

He has a training in psychotherapy and is currently completing the Compassionate Inquiry Professional Training with Dr Gabor Maté. In his previous life Bear was an internationally exhibited contemporary artist, an educator, and an academic with a Masters in Research & Cultural Studies. 

He is currently wring his first book: 

Feminism Will Make a Man Out of You! 

Website: www.bearphillips.co.uk 

www.bearphillips.co.uk

With hosts who are eyebrow deep in the s*x positve community, these nights of talks promise to be the sex education we NEVER had at school.

The place to shake off any shame and brazenly ask questions you wouldn’t ask elsewhere.

No Nudity.

No Under 18's.

Tickets are non-refundable or transferable.

We don't want cost to be a barrer to this work, so if the ticket price is inaccessible for you, get in touch.