The (last) Sex Chats, Brighton.

The Last Sex Chats, Brighton.

Hosted by  Jem Ayres & Bear Philips.

Thursday 28th November

A night of ideas that may shock, surprise & excite you - challenging what you thought you knew about s*x - with trail blazers and leading conscious s*xperts sharing their metaphorical pearls on desire, intimacy, and the art of making whoopee.

Our intentions for Sex Chats, Brighton:

• To create a night of sex positive speakers to explore subjects that may be new, edgy and/or exciting in a held space.

• To share information, education and ideas from professionals and creatives in the sex positive field.

• To normalise the discussion of intimacy, bodies, sex and pleasure

• To give us a language to use around sex, intimacy and pleasure.

• To release any shame around talking about sex, intimacy, and pleasure.

• To learn from each other and have a place to ask questions you wouldn’t discuss at the dinner table.

Nightingale Room, Grand Central (upstairs)

7.30pm Doors

7.45pm prompt start

10.30pm end

Prices:

£15 earlybird (limited)

£18 in advance.  

Donations:

Any donations you make via DandelionEarth on top of your ticket purchase will go towards accessibility ticketing, meaning we can offer lower-priced tickets to those who would benefit from attending but cannot otherwise afford to do so.

Accesibility:

We wish for our events to be as accesible as possible however we have not been able to find  a barrier-free venue so unfortunately the venue has stairs to our room on the first floor.

If you wish to attend but finances are abarrier, please get in touch:  hello@jemayres.co.uk

Speakers for Nov 2024:

One Second Sex to Ejaculatory Choice: Overlooked Pathways to Fulfilling Sex and Intimacy

Finlay Forster-Davies

Finlay Forster-Davies (he/him) is a space holder and trauma-informed bodyworker. He’s passionate about empowering others in their sexuality by sharing the insights, skills, and opportunities he discovered on his transformative journey from premature ejaculation to ejaculatory choice.

As an alternative to the familiar sex-goals of ejaculation and climax, Finlay’s talk will highlight often-overlooked pathways into new dimensions of pleasure and deeper levels of felt-sense intimacy with ourselves and others.

Beyond Pleasure: Healing & Spiritual Growth at Play Parties

Mx Gili

Sex positive play spaces like temple nights and play parties, provide opportunities for profound transformation, extending beyond pleasure into realms of spiritual growth, shadow work, and deeper identity exploration. This talk sheds a curious light onto how intimacy, vulnerability, and power dynamics create spaces for healing and self-discovery.

Gili (they/them) facilitates Spaces of Permission, weaving together Classical Tantra, Shadow Work, and queer-centered approaches to create transformative, sex-positive experiences. Their work invites participants into cultivating curiosity and deepening connection - with one another, themselves and the group body. 

My Journey into Sex Work 

Rae Rose 

Rae Rose (she / her) Intimacy coach & Touch specialist invites you on a journey into her experience of sex work. Speaking frankly about how this work helped to empower her in her personal life and hold her boundaries with more strength than she had felt before. This talk aims to release the shame and stigma that surrounds this work. Rae speaks about her journey with honesty, reverence & authenticity, making this a talk not to be missed.

Improv Sex Ed 101!: How I got out of my head in sex 

Haneen Kahn

A playful acting out of common bedroom dynamics - revealing how we often outsource our pleasure to our partner. You might feel ‘called out’ but certainly *excited* to own your pleasure.

Haneen Khan (she/her) is a lawyer (gasp!) turned sex & intimacy coach. She brings a theatrical twist to her work with Internal Family Systems Therapy - and is dedicated to helping people feel alive & playful in their sex and dating life by helping them to connect to what they TRULY want (in the moment) and feel so damn worthy of asking. 

Why Everyone Should Be a Stripper Once

Isabella Bliss

Isabella Bliss (she/her) invites you to delve into a captivating discussion about the art of the tease, the profound significance of disrobing in front of others, and the empowerment found within ourself through the experience.

With over 13 years of experience in the striptease industry, Isabella Bliss seamlessly transitioned from lap dancer to becoming one of the UK's foremost burlesque artists. Her journey has endowed her with invaluable insights into the nuanced art of shedding layers and the liberation that accompanies it.

Drawing from her wealth of experience and wisdom encapsulated in her forthcoming book, “What Not to Say to a Stripper! Tales of a G-String Diva”, Isabella delivers a myth-busting talk on the essence of being a stripper and how embracing the art of strip tease can foster a profound connection with our own sexuality.

Through the Eye of the Needle-  Erotic Rites of Passage Rituals for Transformation

Eva Weaver 

Eva Weaver (she/her) is a queer author, Sex Coach, Sexological Bodyworker, Shamanic Practitioner, and Snake Medicine guide.

Eva crafts transformative rituals for individuals and groups, blending embodiment practices, Snake Medicine wisdom and conscious kink/BDSM tools, drawing on three decades of therapeutic work. 

In her talk she explores how kink tools like rope, needles, fire, and impact play can help transmute shame, unlock pleasure, and foster connection.

Speakers may change last minute.

About your hosts:

(Professional S*x Coaches & Trauma-informed bodyworkers)

Jem Ayres

Jem (she/her) is a certified Sex Geek -  A trauma-informed, Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Sex Coach, Tantra practitioner and teacher. She is the Founder of Orgasmic Embodiment, and  leads workshops, retreats and hosts talks on conscious sexuality.

Co-Founder of Brighton Talks Sex, and co-host of Desire & Intimacy Conscious Sexuality Gathering for people under 40.

Jem has over 10 years’ experience in the field of self-development through the body and teaches what she calls ‘Sexual Self-Development’.

Overcoming stage 4 cancer became her focus for a while, and through this process she embraced and worked with the healing power of orgasm, both teaching and speaking regularly on Full Body Orgasm, using life force for healing.

Jem’s teaching on Full Body Orgasm, featured on Channel 4s ‘Sex Actually With Alice Levine’ Episode 3; Sexual Healing 2021, and Channel 5 documentary  ‘Adults Only: I Need Sexual Healing’ Series 3, Episode 8.

Multi-talented and creative she is passionate about helping people to connect with themselves through the body, fine-tuning into the subtleties of our life force, using sexual energy to fuel all areas of life. 

www.jemayres.co.uk

Bear Phillips

Bear Phillips (he/ him) was a designer for 30 years before giving it up, at the height of his career, to become a s*x-worker. He is a trauma-informed bodyworker, and an intimacy, dating & relationship coach. 

As a coach he works primarily with men around questions of masculinity, misogyny and patriarchy, and how these impact our most intimate relationships. 

He has a training in psychotherapy and is currently completing the Compassionate Inquiry Professional Training with Dr Gabor Maté. In his previous life Bear was an internationally exhibited contemporary artist, an educator, and an academic with a Masters in Research & Cultural Studies. 

He is currently wring his first book: 

Feminism Will Make a Man Out of You! 

Website: www.bearphillips.co.uk 

www.bearphillips.co.uk

With hosts who are eyebrow deep in the s*x positve community, these nights of talks promise to be the sex education we NEVER had at school.

The place to shake off any shame and brazenly ask questions you wouldn’t ask elsewhere.

No Nudity.

No Under 18's.

Tickets are non-refundable or transferable.

We don't want cost to be a barrer to this work, so if the ticket price is inaccessible for you, get in touch.