Wheel Of Consent Weekend

Have you ever found it hard to say no? 

If you have, you are not alone. When we can't say no, we can end up doing things we aren't willing to do and this can lead to self-blame or resenting the person who asked.

Over the workshop we discover all the reasons why it can be hard to say no. We learn to discern between what we are and are not willing to do and explore a process & vocabulary for setting healthy boundaries which support our relationships.

Are you ever unsure about what you want?

Knowing what we want can feel tricky, especially when other people are involved. Sometimes it feels easier (and less risky) to focus on what others want instead. Over time we can learn to diminish our needs and prioritise those of others.

In this workshop, we explore embodied practices which wake up our ability to notice and trust ourselves, so we become clearer about our own needs, wants and desires.

Have you ever accepted a gift you didn't want then pretended to like it?

This is a common experience as we often don't want to disappoint the 'giver'. In relationships, we can 'give' actions we think the other wants and they might pretend to like it. Sometimes this goes on for years, with no one getting what they really want or need. This can be frustrating and lead to resentment.

In this workshop we learn to differentiate between what we want and who the action is for so we can communicate clearly and experience authentic, satisfying relationships.

The Wheel of Consent is a practice that de-mystifies the confusing and unhealthy ways we relate with each other and offers a clear map to help us get in touch with our needs, wants and desires, overcome our people-pleasing tendencies, build healthy boundaries, develop our self-trust and integrity and have more enriching and fulfilling relationships. It was created by Dr Betty Martin and is considered to be at the cutting edge of the world of consent.

BUT It’s about way more than Consent and in many ways, the name doesn’t do it justice.

The Wheel is really about uncovering inner autonomy. It’s about supporting us to orient ourselves in the world in a way that is meaningful. It’s about unlocking nourishing intimacy with ourselves and others. It’s about the healing power of pleasure. It’s about overcoming our society-wide default mode of going along with things. More than being about touch and consent, it is about learning to choose for ourselves.

This workshop is for anyone who experiences the following:

• People pleasing
• Burnout from always putting others first
• Finding it hard to say no
• Not knowing what you want
• Finding it hard to ask for what you want
• Confusion over relationship dynamics
• Feelings of being shut down or inability to experience pleasure
• Wanting more ease, confidence and sensuality in relationships

Most people join as individuals, you are welcome to come with a partner too.

Over this 2 day fully-clothed workshop we will:

• Learn what ‘Receiving’ and ‘Giving’ really are – and why knowing the difference is crucial for creating authentic connection and intimacy
• Find out where we are clear (or not) in Receiving and Giving
• Learn the framework of the Wheel of Consent® and the four Quadrants as a foundation for connection
• Experience pleasure and sensation in your skin that you can access any time you choose
• Access parts of yourself that have been hidden away that are ready to be seen, appreciated and healed
• Gain skills to bring awareness to your hands so that all your touch is rich and satisfying
• Become exquisitely aware of your desires and limits and how to communicate them
• Practice Receiving, Giving and experiencing each of the four Quadrants

Understanding and embodying the Wheel of Consent happens best through a somatic experience – you have to feel it in your skin. Therefore, learning the Wheel happens through touch exercises. Whilst there are opportunities for exchanging touch as part of the learning in this fully clothed workshop, this is 100% optional and it is not necessary to touch or be touched to learn from it. 

About your facilitator

Adam Wilder is a recovering people pleaser whose life has been transformed through the Wheel of Consent practice. He has been studying and teaching it for 6 years, training in depth with Betty Martin and is one of a handful of certified facilitators of the Wheel in Europe. He is a passionate advocate for the healthy and nourishing relating that comes from respecting our boundaries and desires.

In 2017 he founded the Togetherness movement which has touched more than 20,000 people from across the world with a shared vision to serve, educate and personally develop and evolve through unique initiatives and workshops. He is known for creating ‘Shhh Dating’, the world’s first speed dating experience based on non-verbal connection games; the House of Togetherness pop-up venue in central London and hosting the largest ever mass-spooning circle with 1,447 spooners at Wilderness Festival. 

Adam regularly delivers creative and culture-changing workshops to businesses and organisations. He is a trained counsellor, certified wheel of consent and Circling facilitator and a massive advocate for playfulness and creativity. More on Adam at AdamWilder.com

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