Epic Love: Free Taster

Are you longing to take your relationship to the next level of epic love? 

Or are you single and longing to find a partner who can really meet you?

This taster session will help you to understand the challenging dynamics within your relationships, and support you to experience a love that is filled with passion, safety, excitement and authenticity. (Check out the full 4 week course)

Inspired by the work of Terry Real and Relational Life Therapy, this will be an experiential session to help you identify your own relational patterns, as well as those of your partner/s (past or present).

You will leave this session with insights about why you react the way you do when triggered, a deeper sense of self compassion, and some tools to become more skilful in relationships.

A recording will be made available to everyone who registers.

Relational Patterns

We all develop relational patterns. These are strategies that we deployed in childhood to cope with our family environment. They are protective strategies that worked very well at the time, but are now a nuisance at best, and tyrannical at worst.

Whether you had a traumatic childhood with a big ‘T’, or a relatively understanding and loving childhood, developing relational patterns is unavoidable.

What are the main relational patterns?

This is the strategy we deploy when we get triggered. It’s not how we are most of the time, but what happens when our partner does or says something that activates an old wound.

One Up and Boundaryless - Anger or frustration are your go to. You usually think the other person is the problem. You feel like you have the right to offload on your partner whenever you feel like it. You can be aggressive, entitled and demanding. The most extreme version is violence, shouting or screaming. 

One Up and Walled Off - You become cold or distant, and withdraw love as a form of punishment. You can be passive aggressive, or indifferent and the general tone is ‘I’m too good for you’.

One Down and Walled Off - You feel hopeless and depressed. You tend to make yourself the problem, and withdraw from the love of your partner. You may feel that you’re not good enough or don’t deserve their love.

One Down and Boundaryless - You feel desperate, and afraid of your partner leaving. You may fall into people pleasing, bending yourself to fit an idea of what you think your partner wants you to be. You can become needy and overly seek validation from your partner.