Sex Club: London - Weekend Retreat III
Sat 16th Mar 2024, 11am – Sun 17th Mar 2024, 4:30pm GMT (UTC +00:00)
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Sex Club Retreat III is our third weekend retreat edition with different themes and exercises to explore yet more areas of expansion, learning and liberation related to your sexuality.
You don’t need to have attended Retreat I or II to attend Retreat III.
★★★★★ “Participating in Sex Club has been one of the best decisions in my life! When I first thought about joining, I felt fear and was not sure if it would be worth the money and time. The reviews seemed too good to be true. After all, how much can we learn in just two days? More than half a year has passed since Sex Club and the workshop has truly opened up a new beautiful world to me. I am now exploring and enjoying myself and my sexuality more and more every day, feel empowered to know that we all have unspoken truths about sex, and am better able to share my vulnerabilities with others. What's more, I am in contact with an amazing community of Sex Clubers who support and challenge me to grow." A.
Sex Club is always evolving and growing, with each group we learn and refine our process. But, some things have held true from our first ever groups - the space we create together is brave and held, playful and deep, supportive and challenging enough that we stretch and grow without pushing ourselves to go anyway we’re not yet ready to go.
The process is informed by a set of principles that help form the container for each person to go on their individual journey, to explore the parts of themselves that most need exploration and to find areas within themselves to expand into.
It’s a beautiful and transformative process that invites you into a greater sense of joy and liberation in your relationships and your relationship to sex.
★★★★★ “This is the second Sex Club I have attended and the only way I could describe the experience is profound, intensely moving, and just beautiful. Profound because you are invited to look inside and and dig out deeply buried feelings and experiences, all shared in a safe environment where vulnerability, honesty and openness are celebrated. Intensely moving because self-inquiry - amazingly facilitated at these retreats by Jules and Connor - is hard and bound to make you experience a wide gamut of emotions. And absolutely beautiful because you get to meet amazing people who are all on the quest to understand themselves better. At the end of each of these events I felt just so lucky for having met so many interesting people! ” - Anna O.
★★★★★ “The Sex Club weekend retreat gave me way more than my highest expectations. What a gift to take out into the world of future relationships. It’s hardly surprising after we’d all journeyed so far, and so intimately together, but I sense some of the new friendships forged there will endure for years. Amazing. Thank you.” - P.
★★★★★ “In connecting with others as I have done this weekend, I have re-connected with myself, my needs, and my wants. And in connecting with others I've remembered, as I do whenever I share in a well held communal space, how much I learn about myself by listening to and witnessing other people's experiences of themselves. Sex Club is a well held space thanks to Jules and Conor, and their empathy born of experience. It's such a blessing to have this space to learn with and from others.” Jim Holt
ABOUT THE WEEKEND
As with every Sex Club, it's a clothes-on space where we inquire into our sexuality via spoken inquiry and embodied explorations all influenced and informed by modern psychology, psychotherapy somatic experience and conscious sexuality practises.
We’ll be exploring the following themes in relation to your sexuality…
One of the beautiful and somewhat unique things about sex is the amount of touch we experience and the different parts of our bodies that get to give and receive touch. It brings us out of our heads and into our bodies, into presence. We explore the difference between touch that electrifies us and touch with hand or tongue that leaves us untouched.
Shame is a powerful force that can hold us back consciously and subconsciously from expressing what we really feel, want to say and being able to fully experience pleasure. Throughout the course we practise awareness of shame, communication and tools to acquire agency to transcend it.
When do fantasies elevate your sexual experience and when do they take you out of the moment. How can we put our fantasies and experience into words authentically and sexy?
Exchange your experiences and relationship to masturbation and cultivate self love.
What makes the difference between a feeling of union and a painful or numb experience? Just like a film in slow motion, we explore how we can discover new details, new intensities of pleasure because we whizzed passed them previously.
★★★★★ "The facilitators Jules and Conor were fantastic examples of facilitation at its best. They took time to create and hold spaces which enabled us, the participants to develop relationships with each other within ridiculously short spaces of time. They included themselves and referenced their personal experiences and foibles which made them both human and relatable. Participants felt safe to share with each other, including some very private, never before shared experiences and that was down to the skills of the facilitators. I found the retreat exhilarating, challenging, an opportunity to learn about myself and was left wanting more please.” S.R.
Each day follows a similar structure with content building on what came before. The flow of each day is designed to bring us deeper into connection with ourselves and each other.
This is a non-residential weekend retreat. It's deep and beautiful and fun, and we recommend creating some space for yourself to integrate the experience after each day's session, particularly on the Saturday evening.
SAT - DAY 1
10.45am - Arriving into the space
11pm - We begin with the principles and agreements of how we hold the space together
12pm - Pods: a smaller group within in the group for you to check in with each morning
1pm - Lunch
2pm - Spoken and embodied inquiries into the themes of the day with breaks
5pm - Check-out
5:30pm - Close
SUN - DAY 2
09.45am - Arriving into the space
10am - Pods: a smaller group within in the group for you to check in with each morning
11am - Spoken and embodied inquiries into the themes of the day
12pm - Lunch
1pm - Spoken and embodied inquiries into the themes of the day with breaks
4pm - Check-out
4:30pm - Close
Over the weekend we will create a container together where through shared vulnerability and a commitment to each other we’ll create group trust so it will feel safe to go deeper into our experiences, de-armour insecurities and shame through exposure and find new confidence and comfort in ourselves as sexual beings.
We will take you through group exercises and inquiries inspired by ancient wisdom and modern psychology. Whilst we will offer a framework of exercises, this course very much focuses on tapping into the collective knowledge and experience of the group. No one has figured out how to do sex or intimacy, yet we’ve all learned something along the way. These learnings we’ll share, and piece together the puzzle of our ever evolving sexuality, whilst creating a sense of community and deep connection to your fellow explorers on the way. The space will be held safely yet bravely. It is confidential and we each share only what we feel to share.
As with every Sex Club it works on multiple levels. You have the opportunity to:
- Practise speaking about sex in a trusted, non-judgemental and low stakes environment
- Connect in person with likeminded people and join the Sex Club Community
- Hear and learn from other peoples’ learnings, knowledge and experience
- Process your sexuality and translate your experience into words
- Inquiry into your desires and fears, and through awareness acquire agency to change patterns that don’t serve you anymore
IS THIS FOR YOU?
This course is fully inclusive and valuable to everyone regardless of relationship status or model you’re in, age (18+), ethnicity, gender, sexual orientation and experience, religious beliefs, income and otherwise.
Although this course can be therapeutic, it is not therapy. Whilst we set up a container that enables trust and honesty, we ask everyone to take responsibility for their experience. Please speak to your therapist if you have experienced abuse or trauma through touch or otherwise before you decide to take this course.
No previous experience in Sex Club or similar workshops is required.
No partner is required and everyone will have the opportunity to work with different people in order to enjoy a greater range of experience. You don’t need to have attended previous Sex Club workshops. Join by yourself, with your friend(s), lover(s), partner(s).
★★★★★ “Sex Club stirred up things that weren't even in my consciousness and allowed me to release some deep stored emotions. Having the space to explore my own needs and desires, hearing others sharing and seeing things from a male perspective was eye opening, freeing and has given me a lot to work on. The energy created from these courses is special. I experience big shifts from this work and I am incredibly grateful to Jules and Conor for the safe space they hold and for modelling vulnerability and openness. I can't recommend Sex Club enough. In fact I've recommended it to clients, friends and colleagues, some of which have attended and have had positive experiences to share.” - Binta Patel - Personal Development Coach
- The Sex Club Retreat is a pants-on workshop exploring non-sexual, but highly intimate, human contact.
- Please come wearing comfortable clothing.
- Bring a refillable water bottle.
- There will be a break for lunch. Please bring any food or snacks you’ll need to sustain you. There are also shops close if you prefer going out for lunch. We’ll provide coffee, tea, and fruits.
This is a 2 day workshop which will run on Saturday from 12pm - 6:30pm (London, UK Time) + Sunday from 11am - 5:30pm (London, UK Time). Please arrive on time as latecomers may not be admitted to create a safe space.
This venue is accessible for wheelchairs. There is one step to enter. Toilets are located on the same floor. The workshop features minimal visual cues and can be suitable for people with visual impairment. The workshop features talking and listening and might not be suitable for people with a hearing impairment. Please enquire with us if you have questions. Our UK events are intended for a sober audience. We kindly ask that you respect this request.
We want Sex Club to be accessible to everyone, regardless of income. If you are a high earner please consider the Supporter Ticket which sponsors people with low income. We have a limited amount of concession tickets available for people with no income, please apply for a concession ticket at firstname.lastname@example.org with your motivation to join the course.
★★★★★ “Honestly worth every penny." - A.
ABOUT YOUR FACILITATORS
★★★★★ "Jules and Conor held the space beautifully and created an environment where I could share things I'd never spoken about before. They also encouraged us and created a framework for us to feel into how much was right to share at any moment, to stay in the learning zone rather than the panic zone or comfort zone. Lots of depth, and also lightness and joy." - Emilia M.
I am a counsellor, and facilitator and designer of transformational spaces to further our individual and collective evolution.
Sexual liberation is at the heart of individual transformation, without which there can be no meaningful societal progress. To this end, I co-founded Sex Club in 2017.
When designing and facilitating group processes, I focus on tapping into the existing wisdom and resources of the individual and exchanging their process with each other, which by its nature creates an up-to-date peer-to-peer learning environment. In my therapeutic work, I support individuals and couples to resolve inner conflict and strengthen their self-leadership.
I am a facilitator of transformational spaces, a group process psychologist, counsellor and coach. Designing and leading group processes I support people to deepen their self awareness to recognise and let go of beliefs that no longer serve them so that they can return to their natural state of ease and flow.
As Co-Founder of Sex Club, I’ve discovered that our sex and sexuality often provide profound insights into what is holding us back more generally from living the lives we want to live. By working with these insights we can create change that radiates through all areas of life.
My intellectual background is in psychology with a B.A. in psychology and an MSc in behaviour change, as well as training as a holistic counsellor. My on-going inquiry is how to create spaces that give people the confidence and permission to be real with themselves and others, dropping the performance and coming home to who they really are and always have been.
David Chambers - Authentic Dating Podcast:
★★★★★ - WOW.... Just WOW. So much fun, so insightful, so open, accepting and the space was so well held. Met some amazing people and we discuss topics that i hadn't thought I would be interested in.
Amy Cooper - Secret Seed Society:
★★★★★ - I have taken part in these conversational Sex Clubs before and found them really fascinating, safe, reassuring, enlightening, lightening, stimulating and opening I recommend them. It is not therapy but it is therapeutic, it is not about kinks or being straight or queer, it's whatever the group brings. The variety makes the conversation richer and the difference between us has always seemed to be reassuring. Come if you have sex, come if you don't have sex, come if you feel convinced you know something about sex and would like to share, come if you have no idea what questions you would ask about sex or what you would share. My take home was that we navigate sex for ourselves and can find inspiration and connection from others. Try it..."
Mark Wagner - MKII:
★★★★★ - What a blessing to have discovered Sex Club! A sharing circle where we can finally impart our experience, thoughts and feelings on a theme that concerns all of us: Sexuality. Staying well clear of personal judgement, opinions and dogma the atmosphere is warm and welcoming and most importantly acceptant of one and all. For me personally, the 'session' facilitated the integrated realisation that from here on, the evolution of my sexuality was intricately connected to my ability to communicate about sexuality.... So what better place to start than Sex Club!"
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