Self Explorers Club - 6 Week Circling & Relational Intelligence Course

Connection is often our deepest longing and simultaneously our greatest fear. We may secretly yearn to be seen and met while taking great care to appear invisible and shape the way others perceive us.

On this course we will learn to slow down and bring our attention to what happens inside us when we relate with others as a pathway to meaningful connection, enriching relationships and communication where we are seen, felt and heard and see, feel and hear the other.

We will discover and practise the 5 Principles of Circling through interactive exercises.

Circling is often described as a relational meditation. It is built on numerous cutting-edge but simple techniques that support us in finding what is most true to us and communicating this powerfully and naturally.

It widens our perspectives and our ability to receive and stay open to others. It nurtures a sense of deep personal and collective trust that is both relieving and generative.

What to expect

The workshop takes place in a warm geodesic dome on a rooftop in South East London, with a maximum of 12 participants.

We meet together for 6 weeks, each time we look at one of the principles of Circling and develop our capacity to relate authentically with each other through exercises in 2s, 3s and as a whole group.

Each person will have the opportunity to be 'Birthday Circled'.

This is a common form of Circling where all group members bring their attention to one participant for a fixed period of time. This practice can bring deep insight into who we are and how we relate without the goal of needing to fix or change anything.

Benefits of the course

• Getting to the core of what really matters to you

• Developing your emotional range

• Utilising conflict to develop connection

• Discovering more self-trust

• Connection as the cure for anxiety and addiction

• Self-Healing

Dates

This course runs for 6 weeks on Thursday evenings; 25 Jan, 1 Feb, 8 Feb, 15 Feb, 22 Feb, 29 Feb.

What are the 5 Principles of Circling?

Commitment to Connection

An invitation to stay in connection with whatever is arising between you and others. This includes revealing yourselves and being open to the impacts from—and on—others. This does not mean any forced sense of having to be open or vulnerable.

Owning Your Experience

Getting to our deepest truth, our unarguable experience beyond our projections. Encourages us to take responsibility for what is happening within us, and being open to that changing. Often this requires letting go of outcomes and admitting feelings that challenge our sense of who we are.

Staying With the Level of Sensation

By including the subtle bodily sensations in our awareness and expression, we can share with more power, presence, and discover more truth. These sensations often contain the least interpretation and therefore can surprise us with connections.

Trusting Experience

Invites us to honour the relative truth of any given experience inside of us, while discerning what is happening. It is often an invitation to trust the unknown, to include non-rational experiences and points to something beyond our individual consciousness.

Being With the Other in Their World

Deeply appreciating the perfection of someone in each moment, while getting penetrating insight into the nuances of their way of being. Seeing their inherent innocence, assuming nothing, and being willing to challenge assumptions.

Past participants said:

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"I learned things about myself that I didn't know before. Feelings and emotions that were hidden or masked. I now feel better connected with myself and can already see improvements in the way I connect with others." - Nic B, CEO

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"I experienced a re-homing and sense of belonging, hope, genuine connection, learning and possibility. At the end I felt energised, satisfied, stimulated, stretched, hungry for more." - Sandy G

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"I'm feeling an aliveness I haven't experienced in ages. It's like I'm breathing with my whole body again." - Sebastian B

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"I have a wonderful sense of calm that I have rarely experienced in life. My body feels supple and relaxed like it’s been washed through. I am finding a new ability to observe the world and everything looks slightly different to how I thought". Oli - Finance Professional

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"I'm feeling really expansive, grounded in myself, excited, hopeful, and in contact with more self-respect." - Minnie I

Is this for you?

While this event suits those who have circled before and newbies, the process can be emotionally rigorous. It is a daring practice that requires courage to meet what is within us, all that is within the other and to reveal this to each other.

This workshop can be intense. People encounter places, states, emotions, beliefs, and sensations in themselves and others that are sometimes unfamiliar. We explore the unknown, the volatile, the ambiguous, and welcome emotions many deem as “negative” or “inappropriate” such as feelings of inadequacy, anger, sexuality, and joy. We refer to the willingness to feel difficult and uncomfortable truths as the “commitment to connection,” which of course includes a willingness to set appropriate boundaries and speak a desire for space, distance, and non-contact.

By attending our events you take responsibility for leaving the practice or participating in any given moment—which might include getting intimate with these kinds of experiences.

We will often explore multiple sides of seeming opposites at once, such as independence and interdependence, chaos and order, and agreement and disagreement. We believe this can reveal an underlying unity of the immediacy of experience.

If the above description of our workshops sounds potentially overwhelming or destabilising for you, if you have a mental illness or significant emotional challenges that you feel may be exacerbated by this type of transformational environment, or if you are not sure that you can be self-directed in taking care of your needs during the event, then we advise you not to enrol.

This workshop is led by Adam Taffler.

Adam founded Togetherness and has dedicated the past 15 years to exploring the fundamentals of meaningful human connection. He is a communication & boundaries coach, public speaker, curator and social entrepreneur.

Adam has worked with more than 20,000 people in person and online. He is a trained counsellor, a certified wheel of consent and Circling facilitator, and a big advocate for playfulness and creativity. He regularly delivers creative and culture-changing workshops to businesses and organisations. More at AdamWilder.com

About Togetherness

Togetherness is the movement for meaningful human connection. It was founded to help individuals and organisations wake up their natural ability to form meaningful connection with themselves and others. This is done through workshops, trainings and retreats. For more information on Togetherness and Togetherness at Work, head to Togetherness.com.