Sexual Power: Embodied Sacred Sexuality - with Bibi Gratzer

Experience Sacred Sexuality through movement, breath, sound, touch and visualisation - a monthly drop-in workshop series with Bibi Gratzer
 

Sex is a portal to tap into non-ordinary states of consciousness and mystical experiences even more so than some psychedelics*. 

Yet many of us experience sex as a performance act, rather than a deep surrender to pleasure and ecstasy, and an altered state of mind. 

Through the four Archetypes of ‘The Cross’, the Dark and Light Masculine and Feminine, we explore what the Archetypes can teach us about empowerment, how to reach altered states through sex, and your shadows. 
 

*Jamie Wheal writes about the latest research on sexuality and psychedelics in his latest book ‘Recapture the Rapture’. 

Sexual power is the capacity to use sexual energy to create and deepen intimate connections with yourself and others, and to have healing, transformational sexual experiences that fulfill us on a soul level.

However, sexual power is often  associated with harm due to unhealthy, even abusive expressions. 

The result is that many of us experience shame, guilt, and fear in relation to sex and avoid sexual empowerment. 

Sexual power has many different flavors, which is why I work with the archetypes: 

• being fully present and being able to delay your orgasm (Light Masculine)
• embodying innocence, beauty, and acceptance of everything (Light Feminine)
• rage, wildness, unstoppable pleasure, body confidence and animalistic lust (Dark Feminine)
• embodying the confidence to ravish, and take what you desire with consent (Dark Masculine)
   

“Working with Bibi has been a life-changing experience. She holds really safe spaces which gives room to explore more vulnerable parts of ourselves.”

Do these questions resonate? 

• Do you feel ashamed for being sexual Or not sexual enough? 
• Do you have body shame or can’t get out of your head during sex? 
• Do you experience performance anxiety during sex (eg. you think you are orgasming ‘too soon’ or ‘too late’; you are not hard, or not wet enough)? 
• Do you feel afraid of hurting others or being rejected if you’d asked for what you truly wanted? 
• Do you sometimes have sex even though you don’t actually want to? 
• Do you want to learn how to be more attuned to your own body and your partners?

If you answered one or more of these questions with yes, then this is an introduction for you. 

The aim of this monthly introduction workshop series is to offer guidance and to empower you to level-up your relationship with your own body, your genitals, and to your sexuality, trusting that you can ride the waves of ecstasy. 

Please be aware that this is not a transformational experience for patterns that have existed for most of your life. This is an introduction that offers you an insight into tools and the vastness of what is possible once you start working with yourself on a deeper level. 
 

“A very instructive talk. I have discussed it with my partner and we were very pleased to see that we are actually going along the right lines in many ways, but that there is so much more; that a relationship between two minds has a universe of depth to it. We are so much looking forward to our new adventure together!” 

How will you benefit?

More pleasure in your life

You will be more mindful of pleasure vs contraction. During some workshops, you will receive practices that help you increase your capacity to allow and experience pleasure. You may experience mystical experiences during sex once you start applying the tools on a regular basis. 

Personal growth

The more often you participate in this monthly workshop, the more you’ll free yourself from performance anxiety, shame, guilt and other fears, and feel more confident and loving towards yourself and your own body. Here are a few qualities you might develop when you take this sexual growth journey: courage, grit (perseverance and passion), self-love, resourcefulness, and confidence.

Relational growth

You will become more mindful during sex, and have a range of tools that will increase your fun, joy and pleasure. You will deepen your sexual experiences together through fundamentally changing what you both bring to sex, and how you communicate about sex.

Change of narrative

This work may bring up difficult emotions and sexual trauma, and thus may change who you think you are. It may also change your perception of sex as we will examine preconceived ideas about sex. We will change the narrative from ‘sex is something you do’ to ‘sex is a place you go’. It is a powerful tool for transformation and higher states of consciousness.

What to expect in this workshop series? 

Every month, I will introduce one of the four Archetypes as a focus point. 

We will start with a sharing circle in which I am inviting you to share as much or as little as you like about where you are at in regards to sex. 

I will then teach briefly on the 4 archetypes (I use a map called the cross), which is a shamanic-tantric approach to the human experience. Further, I will go into the healthy and shadow expressions of the energy that we are working with. 

Then we will go into a practical experience / ritual space. This means that you will be guided into 1-2 practices through which you'll discover your edges and grow beyond them. 

We will end with a discussion where you have the opportunity to share and ask questions. 

You'll benefit most from these practices by actively participating, however, in case you find yourself in an environment where you can't participate because there are other people around, you can also take notes and try them on your own. 

The practices aim at including unintegrated parts of you in the realm of sexuality. 

The practices might look like: 

• Visualisations 
• Embodiment Practices of different archetypes and parts of your sexual power
• Transmissions
• Guided movement practices
• Tantric and orgasmic breathwork
• Self-pleasure practices (which might include genital touch)
• Working with blocks
• Learning what kinds of touch you like, and don’t like
• Teachings on how to claim your sexual fantasies
• Teachings on how to move sexual energy in your body to create orgasmic energy
• Teachings on sexual anatomy, and different types of orgasm

It is highly recommended to join more than one workshop as each of them touches different aspects of sexual power and builds on top of the other.

Drop-in session dates (7-9pm) :
 

30th July: The Light Masculine Archetype 

The sexual super-power of this archetype is presence. Discover the effect of focus and presence on your body, and learn tools to increase your orgasmic energy by drawing it up into the body. Learn how to  detach from the need to orgasm and come home into pleasure.  

22nd August: The Light Feminine Archetype

The sexual super-power of this archetype is unconditional love. Discover the effect of love and innocence in relation to your sexuality and learn tools to surrender and open more deeply. Learn how to love your body unconditionally, whatever your experience is right now.  

10th September: The Dark Masculine

The sexual super-power of this archetype is willpower. Step into the energy of taking and ravishing, an often feared and judged energy, but essential if you want to feel more whole in your sexual expression. We will explore your values and your deepest sexual desires, as well as blocks that hinder you to feel free to take what you know will make you come alive more fully. 

1st October: The Dark Feminine 

The sexual super-power of this archetype is ecstasy. Learn about female orgasm (important for male and female bodies), and understand the relationship between expressing emotions and experiencing ecstatic bliss. Learn how to give yourself more pleasure without the need of other people or tools. 

The sharing and discussion parts of these workshops are not recorded, so that we can create a safe, intimate space for people to share on camera. 

Please make sure that you are in a space where you are safe enough to drop into your body and your sexuality before attending the call. 

Who is this for?

This event is for women, men, non-binary, couples, singles.  All genders and gender non-conforming people welcome.  The only prerequisite is that you are willing to participate in the practices, even if they may seem a bit odd or different initially.

Couples are encouraged to pay 2 tickets, one per person. 

Our space

In order to help create a safe container we ask you to comply with the following:

1. Be open and respectful of each other - People who disturb the safety of the group through judgemental, offensive, or violent behaviour will be asked to leave. 
2. Keep confidentiality - Please don't talk about other people's experiences outside of the workshop; talk about your own experiences only 

If you experience significant mental health challenges, please get in touch with us directly before you attend the workshop.

Meet your facilitator: Bibi Gratzer

Bibi Gratzer’s essence lies in bringing the sacred into the experience of the body through sacred sexuality, emotional shadow work, relationship work, and ritual. She is a Relationship and Sex Mentor, working with couples and individuals. Bibi predominantly works with the wounds between masculine and feminine - and men and women. She has a background in ecology, and then studied archetypes, systemic constellation work, grief-ritual, Authentic Relating, sacred sexuality and soul regression. Her spiritual practices include tantra, cross-work (an archetypal map of the soul), Ashtanga Yoga and different forms of dance. She has worked with hundreds of people offering intensives, workshops, retreats, and long-term mentoring. 

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